Deb Smikle Age


“I'm no fag, but as friends so put it."

Her background: Former radio DJ, working in a successful local journalism firm.

Her interests: People talk about her getting dressed up in a particular color when she "apparently feels like it."

Current boyfriend: Actor Brian J. Harris.

Liked most about herself: Nothing; just being present and doing things that didn't feel necessary.


Revealed weakness (in real life): Not liking to wear a shirt because of what I felt about it at first. At the same time, I don't care for wearing my hair pulled back to the neck.


Dressed up or not: Dressing up was more of a "living" thing than a "doing" one. Any female I had become involved with would pick dress up as something they would do on set, this included an emphasis on looking like a show pilot and having him/her walking toward center stage.


Interrupting/showing up late to a movie meant that I wasn't really expected to go beyond the point of being part of the movie's fan base. Other than that, though, I never felt like anyone minded. I would sing, we'd hang out, people would throw food at me, make great conversations, etc....it didn't really have much to do with wanting to be there.


When I was ready to give up, women would ask me if I was "trying hard." This was the typical answer I got. They did realize it was almost impossible to appear confident and relaxed whenever I was with them without doing something weird.


The answer was usually that I just wasn't very confident and relaxed enough in my own skin to make myself comfortable in crowds--no matter how bored I was.


How she does it: My best approach is to simply not pay any attention to what other people want me to do. Having to do new things every day can be tedious, but it's what I actually like to do. I try to focus on what I like doing, rather than focusing on what I've done before.


I think it's important to constantly remind myself that I'm not the guy who gets invited to these things. I'm the guy who goes to restaurants where everyone is eating off plates while I'm sipping drinks.


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